9 Tips to Stay In Touch After Graduation
Hey soon to be graduates!
A lot changes after leaving high school. Yes, it's a super exciting time, but it can also be hard as you try to keep up with friends that you may not get to see as often. Even though you may have lofty goals of keeping in touch forever, in can be really busy, especially as you start university. Staying in touch with your friends is very important, and lucky for us, we have all the benefits of our modern day technology to make it easier. Here are 9 tips to maintain those great high school friendships:
1. Social media is your friend. Whether it's Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or whatever else, social media gives you a chance to stay up-to-date on the daily events going on in your friends lives, and vice versa. Even though it’s not super personal, you will still feel like you are part of their lives simply by keeping up with what they’re doing on a daily basis.
2. Skype video calls. While texting and phone calls are really valuable ways to stay in touch with people, video calls are awesome because you can actually see you friends – it's as close as you can get to the real thing.
3. Be old fashioned; send snail mail. Let’s be honest, everyone loves getting mail. And I mean real mail – not boring ads or bills because nobody wants those. There is something special about getting something in the mail that says that person was thinking about you – it means they cared enough to write a personal message by hand purely for your enjoyment. Be the person who sends snail mail – everyone loves that person.
4. Plan a visit. Just because there’s a lot of distance in between doesn’t mean that you can’t see each other – plan a time to go visit! Take advantage of a long weekend or a couple days off and go see your friends – they will certainly appreciate it.
5. Accept that your friendships may change. After high school people change a lot – realistically there are some friendships that will not be as strong once you don’t have the shared bond of high school to keep you together. But the good thing about this is that you will realize who your really good friends are – these will be the friendships that stand the test of time and distance.
6. Prioritize your friendships. Yes this sounds cold, but if you try to be best friends with everyone you are acquainted with you will run out of time to spend with each person. It will soon become clear which friendships will last, and these are the ones that are worth the effort. Not that I’m saying you should stop talking to all those other people – just realize that some friends will be closer than others, and these are the ones that deserve your energy.
7. It’s okay to not talk to each other every day. They get it, they're busy too. These are the friendships that when you do see each other it won’t matter that you didn’t talk every day – once you meet up again you will realize that it feels like no time has passed at all!
8. Don’t be afraid to blend your old and new friends. When you start making new friends at university it may seem hard to balance your new social circle with your old high school circle, but it doesn’t have to be! It may seem awkward at first, but introduce your new and old friends to each other – if you’re lucky they will all get along and you can all have fun together.
9. Do fun things when you go home. I know that after the stress of school all you might want to do is go on a Netflix binge, but make sure that when you come home you make effort to do fun things with your friends too – even if it's watching Netflix together! Spending time together will give you a chance to reconnect with your old friends and remind you why you became friends in the first place.